Supporting a Loved One Who Discloses Abuse or Trauma: A Guide

If someone you know and care about shares with you that they have experienced abuse or trauma, it can be a difficult and emotional conversation. You may feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to respond. It is important to remember that your friend or loved one has trusted you enough to share this sensitive information with you, and that in itself is a big step. Here are some tips on how you can support and validate the person who has disclosed abuse or trauma to you.

1. Believe and validate their experiences: It is essential to believe and validate the person’s experiences, even if you find it hard to understand or comprehend. Remember that it is not your job to determine whether the person’s experiences are true or not. Simply let them know that you believe and support them.
2. Offer emotional support: When someone discloses abuse or trauma, they may be feeling a wide range of emotions, including pain, shame, guilt, and fear. It is important to offer emotional support and to let them know that they are not alone. You can do this by simply listening and being there for them.
3. Encourage self-care: The aftermath of abuse or trauma can be overwhelming and it is important for the person to take care of themselves. Encourage them to do things that help them feel safe and supported, such as talking to a therapist, seeking support from friends and family, and engaging in self-care activities like exercise and meditation.
4. Help them seek professional help: If the person is open to seeking professional help, you can offer to help them find resources in their community. This could include finding a therapist or support group.
5. Respect their boundaries: It is important to respect the person’s boundaries and to follow their lead. If they do not want to talk about their experiences further, respect their wishes and offer your support in other ways.
6. Take care of yourself: It is natural to feel overwhelmed and upset when someone you care about shares their experiences of abuse or trauma. Make sure to take care of yourself and seek support if you need it.

Supporting someone who has disclosed abuse or trauma can be challenging, but it is also an opportunity to show your love and support. By following these tips, you can be there for your friend or loved one and help them on their journey to healing and recovery.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, please reach out for help. Here are some resources that may be helpful:

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
• National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)